You keep pushing away the relationships you actually want.
You've done the therapy.
You understand the pattern.
You're still doing it.
After our time together you’ll stop pushing the people you want away — not through insight, but because the pattern stops running.
You've talked about it. You understand it. You're still doing it.
You've done years of therapy. You know your attachment style. You can name the pattern — you choose unavailable people, you push them away when it gets good, you sabotage right before commitment.
You understand why you do it. You've processed the childhood wound. You've journaled about it. You've set intentions to do it differently.
And you're still doing the thing.
That's not a failing. That's a structural gap.
Insight doesn't create completion. Conversation keeps you circling. Completion sets you free.
At Transcendigo, we don't add another framework for you to understand. We end what you keep doing — witnessed, final — so you stop running.
You don't need more therapy. You need to be done.
I help people stop pushing away the relationships they actually want — so they can build something real.
Not through more processing. Through completion.
Finish the pattern at its source — so the reflex doesn’t run anymore.
Most therapy keeps you talking about why you push people away.
Understanding your attachment style.
Analyzing the triggers.
Building strategies to choose differently next time.
But the pattern isn't running in your conscious mind. It's running beneath awareness — in your nervous system, your body, the invisible structures that make available people feel wrong and unavailable people feel safe.
You can't think your way out of something your body learned through repetition.
Understanding creates insight. Witnessed depth creates energetic finality.
At Transcendigo, we don't stay on the surface.
We descend to where the self-sabotage pattern actually lives.
We make it visible through constellation work.
We witness it. We complete it.
And you surface done — not still pushing them away.
At Transcendigo, we don't stay on the surface.
We descend to where the self-sabotage pattern actually lives...
Stop Running.
Stay.
Build Real.
That's the shift.
Stop running when things get good.
Stay when the panic hits.
Build real instead of choosing unavailable.
Not through more processing. Through completion.
Together We…
DESCEND
to where the pattern actually lives (beneath surface awareness)
WITNESS
It clearly in the depths (constellation work makes it visible)
EMERGE
with it finished (you surface done, not still carrying it)
COMPLETE
It while still in that realm (energetic finality) reflection space powered by the same frameworks that shape all of Transcendigo’s work.
The pattern didn't start in this relationship.
It started long before — and that's where we go to complete it.
You're done talking about it
Pushes people away when things start to feel good
Keeps choosing emotionally unavailable partners (because available feels wrong)
Sabotages relationships right before commitment
Knows exactly what you're doing but can't stop doing it
Has done years of therapy understanding your attachment style
Can see yourself doing the pattern while you're doing it — and still can't stop
Is exhausted from talking about it and ready to actually be done
You're smart. Self-aware. You've done the work.
You don't need more surface processing. You need to go deeper.
You need to see what's been running beneath conscious awareness. You need to complete it at the depth where it lives — so it stops running.
If you're ready to stop pushing them away and start building something real — we're here.
What happens when you stop?
What happens when you complete the pattern?
Completion isn't a lightning bolt of clarity. It's not a cathartic release. It's not perfect peace.
Completion is:
You stop pushing them away. Not because you're trying harder or managing yourself better. You just... don't do it anymore.
Available people stop feeling wrong. The pull toward unavailable partners quiets. You're not forcing yourself to choose differently — the old pattern just isn't running.
You can let someone in without the panic. The urge to sabotage when things get good loses its grip. You stay. And it doesn't feel like white-knuckling it.
Neutral where there used to be charge. You can think about past relationships without the knot in your chest. No resentment, no longing, no obsessing. Just... done.
Energy freed up for what's next. You have access to the energy that was going to the loop. You can actually build something real.
The most common thing people say after completing the pattern:
"I just stopped doing it. I didn't have to try. It just... stopped."
That's completion.
Start Here
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90 minutes. One pattern. Complete it.
For people who know they push people away, can name the exact moment they do it, and want to see what they can't see in one focused session.
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A bounded completion container for the relationship pattern that won't quit on its own.
Month 1: Locate what you're carrying — the specific moment you push them away, choose unavailable, or sabotage when it gets good
Month 2: End it through constellation work and depth methodology — descend, witness, emerge done
Not 90 days of coaching. Not endless processing.
A structured container to stop pushing people away so you can finally build something real.
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2.5 hours. Weeknight-accessible. Group witnessed completion.
Put It Down: The Situationship For people stuck in the same on-again-off-again dynamic, choosing people who won't commit, or staying in relationships that never become real.
Put It Down: The Saboteur For people who blow things up when they get good — picking fights, creating distance, or finding reasons to leave right before commitment.
Put It Down: The Unavailable One For people who only feel safe with unavailable partners — and want to stop choosing people who can't show up.
Why conversation isn't completion
Here's what most people have already done before they find Transcendigo:
Years of therapy understanding their patterns
Somatic work processing the trauma in their body
Attachment theory explaining why they attract the same dynamic
Inner child work reparenting their wounded parts
Books, podcasts, and courses on secure attachment and healthy relationships
And they're still stuck.
Not because any of that was wrong. But because conversation is not completion.
Understanding creates insight. Completion creates energetic finality.
You don't need another year talking about it. You need to complete it.
About Transcendigo
Transcendigo’s work is stewarded by Trish Calhoun.
The focus is not on a personality or a personal method, but on the integrity of the container — clear beginnings, defined endings, and work that completes rather than manages patterns.
Over time, this work will be held by multiple trained facilitators. The standard is consistency, containment, and completion — regardless of who is guiding the space.
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